3 Ways to Hack Loneliness

My first revelation was that at the center of loneliness was desire. It was a powerful longing for love. And yet, I had learned that that kind of longing was unattractive. I was told that I should stop looking for love and that it would “happen when I least expected it”. I told myself that I better stop wanting things because not getting them made me feel desperate, pathetic, and disappointed. I told myself that I was too old, too ugly, and just too late for love, and then I told myself that love wasn’t real anyway (given the divorce rate). I tried anything and everything to get me to stop wanting love. Nothing worked. I continued to feel lonely.

One day, I was at the beach with my crush and my crush’s new girlfriend. As they snuggled together on the shore, I morosely wandered into the waves, feeling lost in a haze of loneliness and frustrated desire. Suddenly, I decided that instead of fighting off my yearning, I was going to try and open up to it. With each wave that crashed over my head, I called out a new desire. “I want the dress I saw on 5th Avenue,” I started. Crash. “I want to be pretty.” Crash. “I want real love.” Crash. Instead of feeling depressed or lonely, opening up to each desire felt liberating. It felt strong and brave and exciting. Nothing guaranteed I would get these things, but just saying them felt almost as good. Within loneliness is a deep and powerful desire to connect. Trying to get rid of it won’t help. Opening up to the longing will.

What Are You Putting Into Your Body

What Are You Putting Into Your Body – Part 10 of 10

Final Thoughts What you put into your body is critical when you are striving to improve your wellness.  Smoking, alcohol, and drugs are key considerations when you want to improve your wellness, even if these things are only done on occasion. Diet is of utmost importance in achieving an optimal level of energy, vitality, and

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What Are You Putting Into Your Body

What Are You Putting Into Your Body – Part 9 of 10

Avoiding Mood-Altering Drugs Nothing can be more detrimental to your physical, mental, emotional, social, spiritual, financial, and occupational wellness than the abuse or even occasional use of mood-altering drugs, including prescriptions, and illicit drugs like cocaine, marijuana, heroin, and others. The risk of drug abuse increases a great deal during times you’re under transition. These

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What Are You Putting Into Your Body

What Are You Putting Into Your Body – Part 8 of 10

Quitting Smoking If you smoke, you simply must include a plan to quit when you wish to be well! Think about it, you change your diet, you start a fitness plan, you engage in stress reduction activities, you may even change careers in the goal of achieving a well-rounded state of wellness, but you still

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What Are You Putting Into Your Body

What Are You Putting Into Your Body – Part 7 of 10

Avoiding Excessive Alcohol Use Besides diet, there are other considerations in regards to what you put inside your body to achieve an optimal state of holistic wellness. There are many reasons why some people wish to quit drinking alcohol. Some people need to quit drinking as a result of some kind of medical problem or

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Wellness - A Holistic Journey To Ultimate Well-being

Wellness – A Holistic Journey To Ultimate Well-being Part 1

What Is Wellness?

The official dictionary definition of wellness is…

The quality or state of being healthy in body and mind especially as the result of a deliberate effort.

The World Health Organization defines wellness as…

“A state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being, not merely the absence of disease or infirmity” Wellness then is absolutely something that is within our control.

This bodes well for us in daily life, because regardless of our current state, whether we consider ourselves to be well or unwell, we can know that it is possible to either develop wellness in our life or maintain our current state of wellness through deliberate effort.

The road to wellness should be custom designed to suit individual needs! Whether you are doing really well in all dimensions of life and self and simply need to tweak here and there, or you are struggling and seeking more in-depth help with particular issues.

Wellness is a very personal journey!

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